In this day of 50% divorce rates, a passive attitude is detrimental to the relationship.
If deep down inside you believe that there is such a thing as a perfect spouse, you’re going to set your expectations so high, that everyone will disappoint you.
God does not decide in advance who gets married to whom.
And as far as God is concerned, marriage is solely for our earthly enjoyment and has no eternal significance (Matt ).
There are only two examples of God telling people whom to marry – Hosea and Joseph. He has only set one condition for us – that believers marry fellow believers (2 Cor ; 1 Cor ). As far as God is concerned, it does not matter whether you marry someone who is fat or thin, short or tall, brown eyed or blue eyed. God also does not care one bit whether you marry for ministry or not. There are some people who believe that (I used to).